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My Partner Does Not Understand My Menopausal Mood Swings - What Can I Do?


Are you suffering from mood swings? The first step in helping your partner understand your mood swings is explaining why they occur and how your partner can be more supportive. Read on for more tips on how to broach this conversation with your partner.

Talk to Your Partner

Have an open and honest discussion about the transitional phase you are in and the symptoms you are having. Explain to your partner that your mood swings are caused by a hormonal imbalance and that they are often unexpected and inexplicable. Also, ask how your partner feels. See if there is anything you can do to not use a partner as a scapegoat for your changing emotions. Learn to compromise so that your relationship doesn't suffer from your menopausal mood swings.

Explain in Detail


You need to explain to your partner exactly what it feels like to suffer from a mood swing. You need to make it clear that it is not just a normal mood change, but rather, it is actually something that you cannot control, and it is linked to your hormones. Also, explain to your spouse that you do not want to react irrationally or become angry over things that are so insignificant, but you cannot always control your response. Tell your partner not to take it so personally and that in time, this will pass.

Tell Your Partner How to Support You


If it's small habits - like leaving the wet towel on the bathroom floor, not washing the dishes, or hogging the remote control - that trigger your mood swings, tell your partner. With a little communication and a little effort on each of your parts, you and your partner should be able to ride out these mood swings with few consequences. It is important to be honest and forthcoming when talking to your partner to ensure the problem is fixed and not just bandaged.

With good communication, there is no reason for menopausal mood swings to have a permanent impact on your relationship with your partner. If your partner understands that shifting hormones are to blame, they will not take it personally. If you want to learn more, click on the following link to find out about treatments for mood swings.

Maybe it's for the Best

Another way to look at it is that a friendship that you thought was forever has been found out as nothing more than a long charade. If you've recently lost a friend because they couldn't stand your menopausal mood swings any longer, it may be for the best. A true friend would stick by you during your time of need and you should look at this desertion as a kind of blessing in disguise, now you can focus on what's most important in your life.

Mood Swings and Eating Disorders

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Mood Swings during Pregnancy

Almost all women will experience mood swings at some point. The intensity and frequency of the symptom however, will vary.

Heavy Mood Swings

Heavy and severe mood swings affect nearly 20% of women. They are commonly caused by fluctuating levels of hormones and chemicals in the brain.

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