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Making Your Man Feel Wanted After You Have Lost Your Libido

Sex plays a significant role in most healthy relationships. While it's not the most important aspect, sex plays a vital role in forming a physical and emotional bond with your partner. However, if you're experiencing a myriad of unpleasant menopause symptoms, such as loss of libido, vaginal dryness, and hot flashes, sex may be the last thing on your mind. It's normal to feel this way during menopause, but keeping intimacy with your partner on the backburner could hurt your relationship in the long run.

Read on to learn how to talk to your partner about dealing with a low libido during menopause.

Rediscover Your Sexual Appetite

Making Your Man Feel Wanted After You Have Lost Your Libido

Talk to your spouse or partner about alternatives to sexual intercourse. Have a couples massage or do stimulating exercise together, like bicycling or yoga. Not only will these activities give you a mental and physical boost, they can solidify the bond between you and your partner and help reignite the sexual spark.

Engage in Open Communication

Open communication with your spouse or partner is important. Once he understands what you're going through, walk him through your symptoms. Explain why sexual intercourse can be painful or how fatigue has dampened sexual desire. This will help him see the situation more clearly, opening lines of communication while expelling any fears and anxiety between the two of you. Remember, open communication is key in revitalizing every aspect of your relationship.

Make Healthy Lifestyle Choices

Making Your Man Feel Wanted After You Have Lost Your Libido

Small lifestyle changes can go a long way in refueling your sexual energy. Calming exercises such as yoga not only reduce stress, but can improve body image, improve cardiovascular health, and boost your confidence levels. Eating energy rich foods such as oysters, kidney beans, lean meats, fish, and dairy can help improve your diet and, as an added bonus, improve energy levels in the bedroom.


It's not uncommon to experience brief periods of low libido from time to time. However, if you are experiencing prolonged lack of sexual desire, it is advisable to see your doctor for a diagnosis. They might prescribe the right treatment for you.

Also using different approaches to talk to your partner will help you reconnect and recharge your lost libido.

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