Tips for how to enjoy sex when your wife is suffering with vaginal dryness
Tips for how to enjoy sex when your wife is suffering with vaginal dryness

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Tips for how to enjoy sex when your wife is suffering with vaginal dryness

Tips for how to enjoy sex when your wife is suffering with vaginal dryness

It can be de difficult to deal with someone who is going through menopause, particularly as a husband, because you are usually in the firing line for all mood swings or are deeply affected by any sexual issues she may be encountering. However, the good news is that there are ways of overcoming the problems you and she face, and you should always be relieved that it is your wife that is experiencing these distressing and sometimes embarrassing issues, and not you.

Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of menopause, affecting 40 to 60% of all menopausal women. During this unavoidable change your wife’s ovaries stop producing much of the estrogen hormone, which is vital for regulating her sexual functions. A lack of this hormone is what causes a lack of moisture in the vagina. Unfortunately, it is likely to make sex more painful, but this is about as far as it goes when it comes to affecting you. Your wife on the other hand has to deal with light bleeding during sex, general discomfort even when you aren’t having sex and an itching and burning sensation. Don’t become frustrated with the situation, instead work through it together and be understanding. Read below for tips on how to make sex more enjoyable for you both.

5 Tips for sex and Vaginal Dryness

Has sex with your wife become dissatisfying and painful? Or has it stopped altogether in fear that it will hurt too much? Vaginal dryness can make intercourse a distressing time for both parties involved so learn how to make it more enjoyable and less of a chore.

Buy lubrication and apply frequently

This is an easy way to quickly increase lubrication. There are plenty of water-based lubrications to choose from and they will all decrease the friction upon penetration. Make sure you apply lubrication to both your wife’s and your own genital area before each intercourse session and reapply it throughout if necessary.

Encourage more sexual activity

Luckily, engaging in more sexual activity comes highly recommended. Sex, or the activity that leads up to it, will encourage your wife’s genitalia to become more moist, and if this stimulation is more regular then blood flow will increase, making her vagina more healthy.

Be patient; a sprinter never wins a marathon

This is really important. You need to make sure that you don’t rush any sexual activity. Begin by setting the scene and participating in “outercourse” which involves massaging and caressing. This will help to get your wife’s genital areas reacting to the sexual activity. Foreplay and oral sex are also brilliant ways to increase your wife’s natural lubrication. Don’t be in a rush to reach your climax; it is important you think of your wife in this instance. Who knows, you might enjoy it more too if you can take your time.

Exercise regularly.

Using condoms might reduce the friction during sex because they already have moisture on them. If you apply more lubrication to the outer side of the condom, the moisture is more likely to remain for a longer period of time.

Talk to your wife about alleviating her vaginal dryness

Don’t be afraid to talk to your wife about this issue. She is probably thinking the same thoughts anyway, and will probably be just as keen to resolve them. Explain that she should consider what household products she is using because some oil based products and soaps can cause further irritation around the vagina, and advise that she drinks plenty of water to aid the natural lubrication process.

Recommendation for Vaginal Dryness

Although you can make sex more enjoyable for you and your wife by buying lubrication and being more considerate about the speed you take things at, it is not addressing the main cause of your wife’s vaginal dryness. The root cause of this problem is the imbalance of hormones during menopause and these can be dealt with more directly. However, your wife should see her doctor if she wishes to use an alternative treatment. Follow this link to find out more about vaginal dryness.

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Sources:
  • "Vaginal Dryness". Mayo Clinic Health Resource. 2007.
  • "Vulvovaginal Symptoms". The Changing Body: Menopause Handbook. www.menopause.org.
  • Love, Susan M.D. Menopause and Hormone Book. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2003.