It's no secret that women are not always in the mood to have sex, but that doesn't mean it's normal to never have those desires. What fun is that? Just because you have been through menopause and can no longer have children doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to enjoy your partner; now you don't have to worry about getting pregnant!
Unfortunately, one of the side effects that you may experience after your hormones have been sent through the ringer during menopause is a diminished sex drive. Although some women tout the exact opposite and claim they have never been more sexually excitable in their entire lives, the vast majority are left looking for the love life they once enjoyed.
Continue reading to learn more about why you lost your sex drive and a few tips to help get it back.
Who Took My Libido?
There is a combination of factors that can contribute to a lackluster libido. For instance:
Feeling tired does not usually put one in the mood.
Without natural lubrication, intercourse can become uncomfortable and unappealing.
Low Blood Circulation
With the decreased production of estrogen your body has now become accustomed to, your circulatory system may now be neglecting your nether regions.
Some prescription drugs, including antidepressants, can dampen your sexual spirit.
If you are suffering from some other medical issue, sex may be the last thing on your mind.
Assuming Lost Sex Drive Is Inevitable
The idea here is that if you go your whole life assuming you will lose your sex drive after menopause, you will.
How Can I Get My Groove Back?
Is there hope? Of course! It will just take a little dedication, and can you think of a much better incentive? Try:
Lubrication. If your body won't produce natural lubrication, try using a water-based lubricant. Never force anything though, that would just be unpleasant!
Healthy diet and exercise. Making lifestyle changes can have a huge impact on the amount of energy that you have at the end of the day, or around bedtime. However, if being intimate at nighttime isn't for you, figure out when during the day you have the most energy.
Forget the alcohol. It's understandable that you may not avoid alcohol at all times, but in order to prevent the risk of a hot flash, you should at least limit your alcohol intake.
Foreplay. Give your body a chance to warm up to the idea of sex. Why do you have to be in a hurry anyway?
Get creative. It's your life and you should be spending your time doing what you want to be doing. Sexual health is an important part of overall health. If you are experiencing chronic loss of libido, ask your doctor about what treatments are available to help you. Follow this link to read more about how to cope with loss of libido during menopause.