How to Confront Loss of Libido during Menopause
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How to Confront Loss of Libido during Menopause

How to Confront Loss of Libido during Menopause

Loss of libido occurs when you are no longer interested in sexual activity. It is a complicated menopausal change that requires you to tune into your physical, emotional and mental well-being.

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Loss of libido affects 20 to 40 % of women going through menopause. While some women feel the need to reclaim their sexual urges, others are comfortable with a decreased desire to be intimate. Both of these reactions are normal, but if you are among the women who want to rekindle their sexual relationships with their partners, read on to for five tips that can help you.

Understand the problem

Loss of libido is caused by hormonal changes, namely decreased levels of estrogen, progesterone and androgens (testosterone). These hormones work together to maintain the balance needed for sexual activity in women, so when they are produced in lower levels, you lose the urge to be intimate.

In addition, if you are taking medication for anxiety or depression—two other symptoms of menopause—that medicine may have an adverse effect on your libido.

Get comfortable with the new you

During menopause, women experience a variety of physical and emotional changes that can affect how they see themselves as sensual beings. Weight gain or hair loss, for example, may influence how attractive you feel. Anxiety, irritability and mood swings may also chip away at your desire to be with another person. However, in order to have a healthy sex life, it´s important to do the things that make you feel sexy. Try a new perfume or wear clothing that accentuates your favorite body part, for example.

Talk to your doctor

Many women consider talking about loss of libido embarrassing or taboo. Still, being honest with your doctor can help you find a solution. Talking with your physician can help determine and possibly eliminate any contributing medical factors. In addition, your doctor may be able to recommend a locally applied estrogen cream to help with vaginal dryness and irritation if sexual intercourse has become physically uncomfortable for you.

Talk with your partner, too

Couples who spend more time with each other have an opportunity to connect emotionally in ways that will help their sexual relationship. A conversation about the TV show you just watched or the tennis match you played today can lead to other topics, which reminds you why you are attracted to your partner in the first place. Once you have rekindled the emotional bond, it will be easier to talk openly what you will need to be satisfied sexually.

Try something new

Remember that as you mature and go through physical and emotional changes, so will your partner. What used to arouse you before may not work anymore. Try to be proactive; meet your changing sexual needs by searching for new ways to enjoy intercourse with your partner.

More information about loss of libido

There are several reasons that you may experience loss of libido, including sexual dysfunction, vaginal dryness, fatigue or stress. Click the following link for more information about loss of libido.

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Sources:
  • Studd, John. "Loss of Libido and Menopause". The Management of Menopause. Annual Review 1998. Partenon Publishing.
  • Channon L.D and Ballinger S.E. "Some Aspects of Sexuality and Vaginal Symptoms during Menopause and their Relation to Anxiety and Depression". British Journal of Medical Psychology. June 1986. 59 (2): 173-80.
  • Sarell, Philip, M.D. "Psychosexual effects of menopause: Role of androgens". American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology. March 1999. 180: 3S-II.