How to Deal with Your Partners Loss of Libido
A loss of libido is one of the most common symptoms of the menopause, affecting 10 to 45% of all women. It results in many women having a much lower sex drive than they had previously and means that most become less receptive to sexual activity. It is a frustrating and embarrassing time for nearly all females who suffer with it and is therefore something that needs to be dealt with in a sensitive manner.
However, this symptom is one that is most likely to affect you- the partner. It is often a difficult hurdle to overcome and a problem that can cause further difficulties within your relationship, so it is important that as a couple you deal with it effectively, yet discreetly. You can support your partner if she has experienced a loss of sexual drive and can help increase her libido, so read on to find out more.
Easy steps to deal with your partner’s loss of libido:
Step 1: Be supportive and talk about it.
Unfortunately, there is no easy way to approach this subject. For most women, it is a distressing period of time because they can’t understand why they no longer feel the need or desire to be physically active with their partner. Therefore, it is important that you be understanding and supportive. If your partner feels under stress or under pressure to perform then she is even less likely to be able to do so. Realize that it is happening because of an imbalance of hormones and that it is something that can’t be helped. Do not become aggravated with your partner. Do not be afraid to talk about the situation either. Avoiding the topic will only make the situation more frustrating for both of you.
Step 2: Create a stress-free environment and treat your partner.
Simple solutions can often make big differences. Kind gestures on your behalf will reduce your partner’s stress levels, make her more relaxed, and therefore help combat the loss of libido. Run your partner a bath, treat her to massages, do more of the housework, and spend more quality time with her. Often, in relationships, it is important to repair your intimate connection before improving your sex life, so spending time together and being intimate with your clothes on will help your partner feel at ease and is more likely to lead to a more passionate affair.
Step 3: Cook with new foods and exercise together.
To help combat the loss of sexual drive, it is important that stress and anxiety are dealt with head-on because these emotions have a negative effect on libido. As well as making alterations within your relationship, perhaps suggest that she make other lifestyle changes to coincide with the stress-free lifestyle she has at home. A change in diet or exercise pattern can help treat the loss of libido. Foods high in zinc, protein, and magnesium are recommended, so add more red meat, liver, fish, dairy products, and leafy greens to your meals at home. Another option is to add soy products to your partner’s diet. These contain hormone-like chemicals, which will produce vaginal lubrication.
It has been scientifically proven that exercise can reduce menopausal symptoms. Perhaps suggest to your partner that you exercise together. Yoga is an effective form of exercise because it increases flexibility, increases blood flow to the pelvic area, and relaxes the mind, but aerobics and stretching can be just as beneficial, particularly as they can increase energy levels, which are vital for a high libido. Do it together, and your partner will feel less pressured.
Step 4: Compliment often. Many women will feel unattractive during the menopause.
A low sex drive is just one of the symptoms that they may be coping with, and other symptoms such as mood swings, fatigue, hair loss and weight gain will all be having a negative effect on her self-image. Compliment your partner and make her feel more attractive. She will be more inclined to be sexually active.
Step 5: Suggest alternative treatments.
A loss of libido occurs when the hormones in a woman become unbalanced during the menopausal phase. There are herbal remedies that can reverse these effects, but you must be more cautious about suggesting these because you don’t want to appear too forceful. If you know that your partner wants to find a solution, then suggest a herbal treatment. These are not the only viable methods of treating the hormonal imbalance at the source. Your partner will have the option of either using herbs that contain estrogenic components, which repair the balance of hormones by introducing the plant-based hormone to her body, or she can choose a more natural method of herbs that don’t contain any plant-based hormone and result in women producing their own hormones. Both are relatively cost effective and risk free but shouldn’t be used for a prolonged period of time because they may result in your body not being able to produce its own hormones in the future.
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The severity of this problem can vary massively from person to person and quite often won’t need to be treated until it is actually perceived as a problem for the woman, or the couple, it affects. However, when this time comes, there are several ways to prevent or minimize its effects. Follow the link to find out more about loss of libido.
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